Based on the original article "Using a Brain-Based Foundation for Preparing and Supporting Families," featured in NACAC's quarterly newsletter, Adoptalk I have worked in the world of foster care and adoption since 2004. One of the most heart-breaking parts of my work has been seeing everyone trying, I mean really trying, and feeling like a failure. It happens with all members of the community: kids, parents, professionals. I am guessing you can relate. My world...
The Brain-Building Power of “Serve and Return”
To my nerdy little heart’s delight… It’s Brain Awareness Week!!! Brain Awareness Week is a global campaign to increase public awareness of the progress and benefits of brain research. I have seen time and time again just how profoundly life can change when we apply a little user-friendly brain science, so I want to share that with YOU!! Brain science essentials to make your life easier… Let’s start with this podcast episode where I talk...
The Relationship-Building Power of Repair
We, the adults in this messy world of adoption, are going to mess up. ⠀ Here’s the good news: Repair is possible AND good for the brain. ⠀ Think of a relationship that was able to weather a conflict or difficult time? Did you come out the other end knowing each other a little better? Maybe even a little closer? ⠀ When I’ve had a blow up with my child, sometimes I need to talk...
Why Saying “Use Your Words” Isn’t Working…
Find yourself wondering why kids can’t use their words sometimes? This is true of all of us, but especially true for brains that have been impacted by trauma. Here’s an excerpt from Riley the Brave’s “afterword for grown-ups” to help make sense of this complicated topic… The brain has two main operating systems, social-approach/engagement mode (“the upstairs brain”) and defense mode (“the downstairs brain”). At birth, the downstairs brain is the operating system at work....