“Are those your REAL parents?”

Language matters!  I’m not trying to be the PC police or anything, but this phrase needs to go away. Not just in the world of adoption, but families are formed in SO MANY different ways.  This phrase is more for the person asking than for the person being asked. If you’re curious, own your curiosity with a statement like, “I’m curious about your family.” That will let the person you’re talking with choose if they...

Enough and Not Enough

Since we are digging in to the world of adoption this month, I want to share a conversation I’ve had with all members of the adoption triad... I’ve seen how powerful it is when adoptive parents in particular can embrace this tension, that you are enough, whole, loved, lovely, capable, and precious....  And yet you can’t be everything that your child by adoption needs. You’re set up for failure if that’s your goal.  Your kiddos...